Life, The Universe And Gaming: Let The People Speak
In the greater scheme of the world, specifically that part of the world involving such aspects as the internet, the users of the internet, and the thoughts that we choose to share on the internet, I am a strong believer in self-expression.
To wit: I am neither capitalist nor socialist. I believe in people having opinions and I almost exclusively associate myself with people whose opinions are strong and infallible, even if not necessarily agreeable. To me, a person who is able to hold their own in a conversation holds far more value than someone who simply exists to be passive. The meek shall not inherit the Earth because natural selection, bitches.
With all of that said, I must say that sometimes it irks me to hear the things that people say. More specifically, the things that people say without necessarily putting any thought into the things they say. For example, just yesterday I saw an IGN article title that said ‘Has Game of Thrones Gone Too Far?’ which could either be obvious click-bait or just a base misrepresentation of the series which is based on books that have existed for many years now. The average Joe reader might look at that headline and be intrigued, but anyone who knows better would immediately facepalm and click the fuck away from that page. It is far too easy to say something without putting any thought into it, but putting at least some thought into it makes the world of difference and saves you from looking like a complete and total buffoon, if you’ll excuse my French.
So yes, absolutely, have an opinion and be proud of presenting it. Integrity is an enviable trait. But also have the humility and tolerance to accept someone else’s opinion.
Politics and religion debaters, you know what I’m talking about.
And so we come to today’s discussion. It’s two-fold. The first situation which I’d like to discuss is that of someone having an issue with something. For example, a person experiences in-game lag during an online multiplayer session with friends. Or keeping it to the same theme, a person is experiencing internet connectivity issues which lead to them experiencing disconnects. A pain in the ass, right? Perhaps there is a person who installed a piece of software that immediately led to their PC blue-screening constantly — this has happened to me — forcing them to abandon their OS because even safe mode and command prompt uninstallation of files didn’t work. In all of these situations, the absolute worst thing in the world that that person should hear is the following:
“It’s fine for me.”
The second situation, and this one is very recently near and dear to my heart, involves having a particular opinion of a product and wanting to share that opinion. In this case, perhaps you disliked something that is otherwise popular, but not necessarily because it’s popular. Or perhaps you enjoyed something that everyone else hated. Or let’s say you use a specific strategy while playing a particular Dota 2 character that is not otherwise the accepted norm for that character, for example levelling trees with Furion (yes I went there). Imagine if you will that you just went out to watch a movie about a character you adore, only to hate it and want to tell people why you thought it was abhorrent.
“It’s fine for me.”
I want to shatter skulls when I hear that fucking sentence. It’s fine for you, and that’s fine with me, but will you please allow me to have a complain about something and not be told that it’s fine with you, as if that immediately invalidates and proves incorrect, everything that I just said.
We’ve all played games online when we lagged and we told the other players that we’re lagging, and their response is that the game is fine for them. Please tell me, how does that help the person who is lagging? Sure, they now know that it’s a contained issue, but that’s about it. Telling them a second time that you are not lagging is not helping them in any way because they are still lagging.
Likewise, if I watched, say, The Amazing Spider-Man 2, and I hated it, what gives you the right as a person to dismiss my opinion of the movie by telling me that it was fine for you because you liked it? So you’re basically telling me that my lack of enjoyment does not matter because it was fine for you. Right. And the world absolutely fucking revolves around you, right?
One of the biggest frustrations for me in situations such as these is that people tend not to use this phrase as a valid indicator of their opinion but rather just to dismiss your own and detract from any kind of constructive discussion around a topic. Do you have a problem with something? Well tough because I don’t want to discuss it.
“It’s fine for me.”
Stop that. Let me have my time to complain about something that I feel I can validly complain about. Allow me a few minutes to express myself without it being entirely invalidated by your dismissive line. I should be able to say that I am experiencing some sort of problem with my new copy of a game crashing to desktop, or indeed tell people that I don’t feel at all interested in Wolfenstein: The New Order because it just doesn’t appeal to me and wouldn’t appeal to most others if there was anything else out to be played at the same time. I don’t need to be told that someone else is not experiencing the same issue or actually quite liked Wolfenstein. It doesn’t change anything or have anything to do with anything at all. You are wasting precious oxygen.
Here’s a suggestion: Instead of just leaving it at, “It’s fine for me.” Why not add your own opinion and try to stimulate some discussion? And don’t then casually dismiss my opinion because it doesn’t correlate with your own, but actually listen to what I am saying and then tell me what you think and allow me to listen to what you are saying.
To quote Carl Sagan: “In science it often happens that scientists say, ‘You know that’s a really good argument; my position is mistaken,’ and then they would actually change their minds and you never hear that old view from them again. They really do it. It doesn’t happen as often as it should, because scientists are human and change is sometimes painful. But it happens every day. I cannot recall the last time something like that happened in politics or religion.”
Learn a lesson from the world-renowned astronomer, guys. Stop being that guy and start putting some thought into your words. I promise, it will change your life.