Abyssal Pixels: My Girlfriend Is A Non-Gamer
So… I’ve recently entered a communion with a lovely lady that I love very much. We’ve been together for a few months now and I’m as happy as a guy can be. I’m not the most attractive dude around and my personality is a little off-putting to the female populace, but somehow this girl saw something in me that made her want to pursue a relationship. God bless her tiny little heart for finding this behemoth of a metalhead with random vulgar outbursts and an intimidating demeanour worthy of love. But there is one slight catch to this whole thing. She hasn’t played a single game in her life.
Now, I’m not the superficial type that judges people based on their interest much less my girlfriend, so the fact that she does not play games doesn’t really matter to me. But gaming is still a gigantic part of my life and I have an undying passion for it. At first, when we first started getting to know each other, she was a typical non-gamer that I have described so many times before. Someone who is completely ignorant of what gaming really entails and only ever know it from popular media and outside sources. She generally associated games with the common “Call of Duty and Sims LOL” mentality that many people employ, but I have slowly started convincing her that gaming is quite the relevant artform.
The common ground that I managed to strike is narrative. She is an avid book reader and enjoys a narrative experience much like you would expect and because of this she has a broad general knowledge. When I tried to convince her of the goodness of gaming, I tried using the great narratives we have rather than solely focusing on gameplay. I used examples from Witcher 2, Dragon Age, Mass Effect, BioShock Infinite, The Walking Dead, The Last Of Us, Spec Ops The Line and all the narrative powerhouses we have in gaming. This seemed to make her a little bit more accepting that gaming is actually a much deeper and more complex medium than she previously perceived. I even managed to get her attention with Metro Last Light’s setting because she has an interest in Communist Russia and the post-apocalyptia metro tunnels got her attention somewhat.
Of course, this is all just window dressing. I can go on for hours how these games have made me feel real solid emotion (not David Cage level emotion) and how these deep and interwoven stories are very near and dear to my heart. But none of them will matter unless she actually sits down and experiences one of them. Now, this is something I have yet to do. We don’t see each other a lot outside of university and playing any one of those games would take hours and even more so thanks to her inexperience with any games. Still, it’s something that I hope can happen soon.
But I don’t want to force it down her throat (shut up) just because I have such a love for gaming. If she does not like it, then so be it. It wouldn’t matter to me at all. But I’m content in just providing her with a glimpse of what my world is like. I’ve tried going into her world of reading mountainous books and started reading Moby Dick: or The White Whale which some of you might know is extremely long and I’ve been enjoying the time I’ve spent with it so far.
The game that I would probably want her to play first would be Telltale’s The Walking Dead because of its simple gameplay and increased focus on narrative. It’s just a simple point and click adventure game that doesn’t require that much effort on the gameplay front so it would be an easy starting point into the world of gaming.
Still, I love this girl and just being with her provides me with more enjoyment and happiness than any game can provide me. So even though she hasn’t seen my near-obsessive love for gaming, she still has my full on obsessive love. Yes, my vagina is growing quite nicely thank you for asking.